I don’t think that’s the other side. That’s your side. While it does seem that you were treated badly, why did you not explain your side to your children? Keeping silent meant that they only heard her side. You’re fine telling us, a bunch of strangers, but your real business is with them. I have some crappy family stories myself. Schisms only widen over time. In my case, I chose not to try to fix some of these things. Estrangements can become permanent, particularly when one of the parties dies.